“The key to change, is to let go of fear” ~ Rosanne Cash
I had an interesting talk with Jody the other day. Both of us are going through some pretty big changes in our life; which ultimately means we are being forced to deal with some big challenges.
Change is interesting. It’s inevitable and yet we seem to fear it. Right this very minute you are changing. Even as you sleep, your body is changing: your temperature drops, production of new cells increases, and your heart rate decreases.
Around you things are constantly changing: the clouds drift by, the sun rises and sets, and the wind blows.
Children grow up, relationships drift apart, new ones come together, we move away, we mourn what was…
IF WE DON’T EMBRACE CHANGE, WE WILL FEAR IT.
If we fear change we are not embracing the moment because we are worried about the future, the ‘what ifs’. This means a nice dinner with family or a beautiful sunset with a friend is compromised by thoughts controlled by fear and anxiety. We are no longer present.
Right now, the changes I have in my life are not something I wanted. I don’t want to spend my summer dealing with this issue. I have other things I want to focus on such as CELEBRATING my Ebook, TRAINING for my full marathon and ENJOYING my family who will be visiting in a couple weeks.
I am HAPPY; why does this have to happen NOW?
The challenge that is in front of me is OUT OF MY CONTROL, however, I have to embrace it because I cannot change it.
‘Out of my control,’ that’s a scary thought isn’t it?
I ultimately only have control over how I respond to this particular change and what kind of ENERGY I give it.
One option is I can spew out negativity, anger, frustration and tears…and I’m sure there will be days when I’ll feel that way. When that happens I will respect those feelings, process those feelings but I won’t sit in them too long. That’s not healthy.
The other option is I EMBRACE this change and realize that with each change and challenge in my life:
I learned something.
I gained something.
I became a better person with a greater understanding of what I wanted, who I was and what I was capable of doing.
I found inner strength and greater vision.
…and ultimately, I was always, “ok.”
This change in my life may be another challenge but it won’t defeat me…and really, it might be leading me to the ultimate vision I have for my life, so…
As the song says,
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again!
With a smile,
Tina
