I’ve been told by a few people that I should lower my expectations.
I shouldn’t expect people to be OPEN with their emotions, UNDERSTAND their behaviour or be able to SELF reflect.
I shouldn’t expect people to be capable of the level of HONESTY, LOYALTY and AUTHENTICITY I strive for in my own life.
I shouldn’t expect people to be there for me when I need their SUPPORT, LOVE and CARE and I shouldn’t expect the phrase, “I’m sorry” to actually mean CHANGE.
I have also been told to lower my expectations of mySELF: where I want to live, what car I want to drive, my career, how much money I make or the type of person I want to date. In fact, I’ve been told that I expect too much and I should “settle” with whatever I get.
WHY?!
Why on earth would I ever lower my expectations? Why would I ‘settle’?
What would that be telling mySELF?
I have high expectations or “GREAT EXPECTATIONS” not because I think I am better than anyone else or I deserve more than somebody else but because I now VALUE mySELF and see what I am capable of – I see my potential and the life I want to lead is not only possible but sustainable.
I am passionate about living the life I envision and the only blocks would be my own fear (which definitely gets in the way sometimes) or believing those negative comments and allowing them to seep into my skin.
Lowering my expectations is telling my inner spirit:
“You don’t really deserve to be treated with kindness, love and respect.”
“You don’t deserve an inspiring home or a reliable, fun car.”
“You don’t deserve a loving man who will be honest, loyal, handsome, funny, kind and generous.”
“You don’t deserve a fulfilling career and an abundant paycheque.”
“NO TINA, YOU AREN’T GOOD ENOUGH SO YOU’LL JUST HAVE TO SETTLE.”
Now that I’ve made certain changes in my life, those fear based, negative statements are having less of an impact on how I live. I have a choice, and so do you.
The choice lies in which voice you focus on: negative or positive.
If you BELIEVE in the negative then that is what you will receive. (Ouch!)
If you BELIEVE in the positive, you will honour your SELF, the very essence of who you are and as a result your life will unfold as you envision. It’s not without bumps, scrapes, lessons or pain…but it is with AUTHENTICITY and being true to who you are and that is worth the journey.
Do NOT tell me to lower my expectations.
Do NOT tell me to settle or expect less.
Do NOT try to feed insecurity and fear because it will not work.
Empower me. Support me. Embrace me. Love me. Help me. Encourage me. Give me strength, honesty and opportunities and I will do the same for you.
Nothing less is acceptable – for you or for me.
With a smile,
Tina
