Growing up, the message I received from my father was that I was
…bad…
…ugly…
…worthless…
…unlovable…
He instilled
…fear…
…guilt…
…shame…
…self loathing…
He taught me that I was a bad person…a horrible, awful, hideous creature that deserved pain.
This was the message I received from him and he either said this verbally or through his actions. I believed him for a while…
…but…
I ALWAYS KNEW THE TRUTH.
For many years I didn’t have the COURAGE or the EMOTIONAL STRENGTH to live that TRUTH but I always did know it was there…hidden deep inside of me…protected from further pain…
Instead of listening to what I was taught, I turned to what I know (two very different things)…
What I was taught was truly horrible for any child to believe…to think they are somehow ugly, bad and unworthy of love…
What I know is that my natural state is LOVE.
I believe we are born LOVE and then we are taught everything else: hate, kindness, patience, anger, jealousy, courage, respect, compassion, hope, guilt, shame, appreciation etc.
I believe we are born with INSTINCT but we are taught FEAR.
We have to go back to what we know, and keep the POSITIVE things we were taught.
We need to honour our TRUE selves…not the negative self we were taught, influenced or brainwashed into believing.
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You weren’t born bad…as a child, you were never bad. You may have done some things like break something or steal something or hurt your little brother…but you were never ‘bad’. You were a kid…learning, experimenting, discovering and challenging your boundaries.
You were a child trying to find your way.
Today, I want you to understand your VALUE and WORTH, your PURPOSE and LIGHT.
I want you to look and see the LOVE that is inside of you…
It may be hidden very deep underneath self loathing, hatred and anger. It may be tucked behind guilt and shame or wounded from too much pain.
I understand.
I know.
But I want YOU to know that underneath all of that is your TRUE SELF…the pure, beautiful love of a human spirit. The very essence of who you are is LOVE. If you can hold onto that thought and nurture that tiny flame one day at a time…think and do things that nurture that TRUE SELF…that LIGHT, that LOVE will shine on the dark places of your heart. If you can’t bear to do it for yourself, let me say it for you:
I am love.
I am lovable.
I am worthy of love.
When that TRUTH truly resonates within yourSELF…then not only will you treat yourSELF with more LOVE, KINDNESS and RESPECT but you will have far more LOVE to give to others.
My wish is for you to see your true self today…your true self is love.
From my heart to yours,
Tina
PS. I would be profoundly grateful if you join me in a very important event called Jog4Joy to raise awareness for mental and emotional wellness. For more information click HERE or email me at tina@jog4joy.com THANK YOU.
