What You Know vs What You Were Taught

September 18, 2012 By Tina Moore Leave a Comment

Growing up, the message I received from my father was that I was

…bad…

…ugly…

…worthless…

…unlovable…

He instilled

…fear…

…guilt…

…shame…

…self loathing…

He taught me that I was a bad person…a horrible, awful, hideous creature that deserved pain.

This was the message I received from him and he either said this verbally or through his actions. I believed him for a while…

…but…

I ALWAYS KNEW THE TRUTH.

For many years I didn’t have the COURAGE or the EMOTIONAL STRENGTH to live that TRUTH but I always did know it was there…hidden deep inside of me…protected from further pain…

Instead of listening to what I was taught, I turned to what I know (two very different things)…

What I was taught was truly horrible for any child to believe…to think they are somehow ugly, bad and unworthy of love…

What I know is that my natural state is LOVE.

I believe we are born LOVE and then we are taught everything else: hate, kindness, patience, anger, jealousy, courage, respect, compassion, hope, guilt, shame, appreciation etc.

I believe we are born with INSTINCT but we are taught FEAR.

We have to go back to what we know, and keep the POSITIVE things we were taught.

We need to honour our TRUE selves…not the negative self we were taught, influenced or brainwashed into believing.

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You weren’t born bad…as a child, you were never bad. You may have done some things like break something or steal something or hurt your little brother…but you were never ‘bad’. You were a kid…learning, experimenting, discovering and challenging your boundaries.

You were a child trying to find your way.

Today, I want you to understand your VALUE and WORTH, your PURPOSE and LIGHT.

I want you to look and see the LOVE that is inside of you…

It may be hidden very deep underneath self loathing, hatred and anger. It may be tucked behind guilt and shame or wounded from too much pain.

I understand.

I know.

But I want YOU to know that underneath all of that is your TRUE SELF…the pure, beautiful love of a human spirit. The very essence of who you are is LOVE. If you can hold onto that thought and nurture that tiny flame one day at a time…think and do things that nurture that TRUE SELF…that LIGHT, that LOVE will shine on the dark places of your heart. If you can’t bear to do it for yourself, let me say it for you:

I am love.

I am lovable.

I am worthy of love.

When that TRUTH truly resonates within yourSELF…then not only will you treat yourSELF with more LOVE, KINDNESS and RESPECT but you will have far more LOVE to give to others.

My wish is for you to see your true self today…your true self is love.

From my heart to yours,

Tina

PS. I would be profoundly grateful if you join me in a very important event called Jog4Joy to raise awareness for mental and emotional wellness. For more information click HERE or email me at tina@jog4joy.com THANK YOU.

31 Days of JOY!

September 13, 2012 By Tina Moore Leave a Comment

Jog4Joy presented by Wells Fargo and in partnership with The Kelty Patrick Dennehy Foundation is 31 days away and WE ARE EXCITED!

Lots will be happening this coming month but if you want to be involved in the JOYFUL energy, here are a few things you can do:

  1. REGISTER TODAY! This is a JOYFUL event for a serious issue so it’s a great way to SUPPORT a family member, friend or co-worker who may be struggling with depression, anxiety or other mental health issues.
  2. REGISTER A TEAM! This is such a FUN way to bring people together, doing something healthy AND supporting such a great cause! We like a little friendly competition so what group will have the biggest team? Who will create an awesome way to inspire and empower others to BELIEVE?
  3. SPONSOR A PARTICIPANT! If you can’t make the event yourself we’ve made it so you can still be involved! You have the option to SPONSOR someone else so they can participate. SHARE the experience with someone who needs it; sponsor a participant today!
  4. VOLUNTEER! We welcome volunteers with open arms! We are looking for people to volunteer NOW and the day of the event. Please contact Tina for more information: tina@jog4joy.com
  5. SPREAD THE WORD! We like to have a lot of FUN at Jog4Joy so it’s easy for us to talk about this event. We talk to our family, friends, co-workers, Facebook contacts, LinkedIn, Twitter, grocery clerks, Starbucks baristas, doctor, chiropractors…you name it, we’ve talked to them! Fun event. Great cause! SPREAD THE WORD!

Mental health needs to be a PRIORITY because it affects ALL areas of your life: finances, career, relationships, physical health and quality of life.

YOUTH are especially affected and this year we’ve partnered with The Kelty Patrick Dennehy Foundation. We were deeply touched by their story and their incredible determination to make a difference in the mental health forum, specifically focusing on depression and depression related illnesses in YOUTH.

Depression and anxiety in YOUTH is going up, not down so we want to reach out, support and offer other options for these kids and families who struggle.

This year’s theme is BELIEVE. Believe in HOPE. Believe in yourSELF. Believe you are worth the fight!

Jog4Joy welcomes you to join us as we walk, talk, jog, run, laugh, and play to raise awareness for mental and emotional wellness. Your registration fee helps The Kelty Patrick Dennehy Foundation. Your presence at the event empowers others by giving a voice to those who may suffer in silence.

A BIG THANK YOU TO CAI CAPITAL MANAGEMENT COMPANY FOR THEIR RECENT SPONSORSHIP. WE ARE VERY GRATEFUL TO HAVE YOU INVOLVED WITH JOG4JOY!

Looking forward to seeing all your lovely faces October 14th!
With a smile,

Tina

9/11

September 11, 2012 By Tina Moore Leave a Comment

I remember 9/11 very well.

I was living in a small attic apartment after separating from my ex husband. I woke up to my old clock radio announcing a plane had struck a tower in New York and it was on fire. I got out of bed and turned on the television…within minutes I was watching live as the second building was hit and both towers were covered in thick, heavy smoke.

I didn’t know a single person in those towers but I was devastated for them and for the lives that would be affected. I thought about how terrified and confused the people in the buildings must have felt…their last moments of life in absolute chaos and panic.

I sat and watched in horror, completely powerless like millions of others as the buildings collapsed. I was in shock and wept openly. I said out loud to myself:

“Oh my God, how could this happen on North American soil?”

I was scared. What did it mean?

I was then deeply ashamed.

The truth is devastation happens every day in many different countries…images of violence, riots, war and slaughter against PEOPLE would affect me but not as deeply as that particular day in New York. Did it have to come onto my soil for me to really understand the depth of destruction, pain and suffering in the WORLD? To this day, I don’t know…all I know is my life changed that day and my level of understanding opened up.

PAIN IS PAIN.

PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE.

MY BRAIN DOESN’T UNDERSTAND VIOLENCE; MY HEART ONLY UNDERSTANDS LOVE.

Today I HONOUR to the deepest of my ability the people who were in those buildings suffering an unimaginable, frightening death.

I HONOUR the survivors and all the incredible people who BRAVELY stepped into the depths of hell to HELP people they did not know, risking their own lives to save others.

I HONOUR the families and friends who continue to miss their loved ones…grieving is an individual process and I wrap my arms around you with love.

To those watching, powerless as lives were lost in front of you, chaos surrounded you and you were confused, lost and didn’t know how to handle it, I give you my love.

I haven’t experienced first hand such violence and devastation but what I do know is that the WORLD needs more LOVE, COMPASSION, KINDNESS and RESPECT for others…if we ALL move forward with these qualities in our heart, reflecting our daily actions, the WORLD would change, one person at a time.

I am GRATEFUL for my life. I am GRATEFUL for the people in my life. Today I honour YOUR life by living MY life to the best of my ability…HELPING, LOVING, and extending KINDNESS and COMPASSION wherever I go.

From my heart to yours,

Tina

 

How To Manage Race Anxiety

September 6, 2012 By Tina Moore Leave a Comment

You’ve been training hard.

You’ve been getting up early on mornings you’d rather sleep.

You put on your runners and force yourself out the door.

You’ve been stretching and making sure you are balancing workouts with rest.

You watch what kind of fuel you put into your body and drink lots of water.

You focused on core strength and added cross training into your routine.

You’ve been speed training and extending your distance.

YOU HAVE WORKED VERY HARD TO ACHIEVE YOUR FITNESS GOAL.

With all this work, it’s very unsettling to have days of stress and anxiety where you feel like you’re never going to make it.

I understand race anxiety. I experienced it for both the 40k I ran on my 40th birthday and my full marathon on my 42nd birthday. I had moments where I did not think I was physically ready. I doubted my ability to run that far…I doubted whether I’d done enough training…I simply became consumed with DOUBTS, FEARS, and NEGATIVE THINKING. Ultimately it serves no purpose other than creating chaos and sabotaging your hard work.

Being mindful of your thoughts is crucial in achieving your goals.

This means filling your mind with POSITIVE, GOAL ACHIEVING THOUGHTS.

It’s about visualizing the end result.

Your brain has much more POWER and control over your fitness goal than you may realize…you need to train your brain.

This is what worked for me:

  • Write down exactly how you want to feel the day of the event.
  • Write down how you want your body to respond to the distance you are running. (This is where I insert my motto: I feel good. I feel strong.)
  • Write down what kind of weather you’d like to have.
  • How you feel as people are cheering for you.
  • Write down what they’ll say!
  • Write down how you’ll feel when you cross that finish line, ACHIEVING YOUR GOAL!!
  • Write down all the POSITIVE, NURTURING, INSPIRING and MOTIVATING things you can possibly think that you want to experience on the actual race day. If you need to feel calm, write that down. If you need to feel strong, focused and determined, write that down.

FILL YOUR BRAIN WITH WHAT YOU WANT, NOT WHAT YOU DON’T WANT (Positive in, negative out)

THIS IS YOUR GOAL.

YOU HAVE CONTROL OF WHAT THOUGHTS ARE IN YOUR HEAD.

I believe you can achieve whatever you think you can.

Train hard + positive thoughts = achieving your goal

With a smile,

Tina

 

 

Embrace One Another

September 4, 2012 By Tina Moore Leave a Comment

The day after Labour Day is a big day for a lot of people. Many feel it’s almost like New Years, a chance for new beginnings. There is an exciting ENERGY, especially when it’s such a beautiful day outside. The sun is shining, the sky is blue and the air is fresh. There is an element of HOPE, CHANGE, POSSIBILITIES and OPPORTUNITIES.

I embrace this energy. I LOVE it and yet, I also tend to see the world through filters. I don’t mean this in a negative way but rather I look at the world through my own eyes and then through my understanding of someone else’s eyes.

COMPASSION AND EMPATHY CREATE A DEPTH IN PERCEPTION.

For example, how does today look to the family who lost their 8 year old son to cancer just 8 and a half months ago? All those back to school advertisements…

What about the two siblings who lost their father? How does it feel for their Mom to be getting the kids back to school without her lifelong partner by her side?

How does today feel to the little soul entering school for the first time?

What about the girl who loves her new outfit only to get called a slut the minute she walks through the school doors. She probably won’t share how sad and ashamed she feels and instead will internalize her emotions…

What about the boy getting out of the car and his father tells him he’s stupid…how do you go about your day believing your father thinks you’re stupid?

There is EXCITEMENT, HOPE and LAUGHTER. There are CHALLENGES, STRUGGLES and PAIN. No matter who you are or where you live, everyone around you has a story.

THE ONLY ANSWER IS TO LIVE WITH LOVE, COMPASSION AND KINDNESS AS YOUR GUIDE.

A hug goes a long way and it doesn’t need words. A small note can be saved for years.

A touch on the shoulder, a squeeze of a hand…a smile from the heart…these things can help someone get through a difficult day and ultimately they just enhance your own life experience.

EMBRACE ONE ANOTHER.

You just don’t know what is happening in someone’s life; that HUG may be their LIFELINE.

With a smile,

Tina

PS. Don’t forget to make a difference in someone’s life by registering for JOG4JOY…giving hope, one step at a time.

 

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