Don’t Take Anything Personally!

May 29, 2012 By Tina Moore Leave a Comment

Have you ever started a conversation with someone you didn’t know and they respond or react in a negative way?

How about feeling like you haven’t been heard or your thoughts are insignificant after a conversation with a loved one? Perhaps they criticize you, put you down with backhanded compliments or know your vulnerabilities and push that button?

Those types of conversations can be difficult and often times we are left wondering if we have done something wrong.

This is what I’ve learned from my dog: (I love her so much!)

She can walk up to another dog, greet them with an excited, happy smile on her face, and if they don’t like her…she just walks away! She doesn’t think for a second their negative reaction has anything to do with her!

  • She doesn’t leave thinking there is something wrong with her!
  • She doesn’t start to beat herself up over it!
  • She doesn’t start analyzing what just happened and creates negative energy towards herSELF or resentments towards others!

NO! She instantly MOVES ON continuing to ENJOY her day and gets excited the next time she meets another dog.

It’s so simple!

CAN YOU IMAGINE HOW MUCH EASIER LIFE WOULD BE IF WE COULD ADOPT THIS WAY OF LIVING?

For some reason we tend to internalize rejection and criticism and immediately put it on ourselves that something must be wrong with us!

As Don Miguel Ruiz states in his book, The Four Agreements:

“Don’t take anything personally!”

He says:

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

NEEDLESS SUFFERING! This makes absolute sense to me and it is proven by my dog. She instinctively understands this concept. When she gets rejected she simply moves on, continues to enjoy her day and as a result she doesn’t suffer!

When we invest in what we’ve been told by others and start to second guess ourselves, we doubt our abilities, talents, opinions and actions.

We start to believe someone else’s story instead of our own.

“DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY!”

This is a life-long lesson; one that must be practised daily, but when I see the absolute JOY my dog has because she doesn’t take anything personally, I witness the wisdom of those words.

HONOUR YOURSELF.

LISTEN TO YOUR OWN VOICE.

DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY!

With a smile,

Tina

PS. Check out my book HERE. It was recently described as “raw”, “inspiring” and “honest”. Check it out and pass it on…THANK YOU!

THE Jog Blog – 68

May 24, 2012 By Tina Moore Leave a Comment

I RUN for FUN.

I have suffered enough in my life that I do not want to suffer when I run. I jog for HAPPINESS, QUALITY OF LIFE, HEALTH and BALANCE not for more pain or negative self talk:

“You should be running faster, longer, harder etc. You aren’t doing it right. You are slow, weak, etc.”

I definitely CHALLENGE myself but I don’t beat myself up.

I RUN FOR FUN.

There is only one letter difference and what’s in the middle is U!

Often people will tell me:

I hate jogging. There is nothing FUN about jogging. It’s too hard. I can’t do it.

Have you tried?

Often people haven’t even tried, they’ve just decided it’s too hard.

If you’ve tried, did you get help from a professional like Jody Kennett from Leapfit? Did you buy my book? Are you expecting too much too soon? How’s your ATTITUDE? These things make a big difference in how you experience jogging.

Here are ways I RUN for FUN!

1. I STOP TO SMELL THE FLOWERS…literally. Yesterday I stuck my face into a handful of lilacs. I am blessed to not have allergies, so I allowed my senses to appreciate the beauty of spring.

2. I TAKE PHOTOS. I see things I may use in a blog so I give myself TIME to do this because it’s fun!

3. I CHOOSE MY THOUGHTS . Very important. I process the frustration, anxiety or fear but then I release those thoughts into a hill or a faster pace. It is our free will to CHOOSE what we think and what we nurture. If you approach a run as FUN, chances are you’ll have FUN! If you approach a run as HARD, DIFFICULT, BORING, PAINFUL etc., chances are that will be your experience.

4. I SET GOALS AND SHARE WITH FRIENDS. When I enter an organized event such as Scotia Bank Half Marathon, Vancouver Sun Run or Victoria Marathon I am there to enJOY the experience, have FUN, run, LAUGH, take photos and APPRECIATE the people around me.

As my dear sole sister Jill said when she post my Vancouver Sun Run on Facebook:

“I truly ♥ this woman! I’ve had the privilege of running with her a couple of times, and I LOVE that it’s always about the time she had, never the time she got… Can’t wait to make more memories in June, Tina!”

Here are my PRIORITIES when I run:

HAVE FUN.

CHALLENGE MYSELF.

ENJOY THE PROCESS.

MAKE MEMORIES.

We all have our own goals and priorities. I know this won’t work for some people but it works for me.

I hope you have a beautiful, FUN weekend! To my American friends, have a safe and rejuvenating long weekend.

See you on Tuesday!

With a smile,

Tina

Ask And You Shall Receive

May 22, 2012 By Tina Moore Leave a Comment

Is this true? I know I’ve asked for things in the past and didn’t get it.

“Please let this be the winning lottery ticket.”

“Please let there be a parking space.”

“Please don’t let me get sick this week.”

Not all requests get answered.

I’ve also heard “NO” many times. I now realize that the word NO stands for:

NEW OPPORTUNITY.

Let me explain the GIFT OF ASKING and the GIFT OF NO.

This past weekend I went to a conference in Los Angeles, California.

Saturday was a long day with lots of information squished into my brain. I was tired, hungry and ready for a rest before we had to go to another function later that night.

I have a wee infatuation with firemen. It’s just for FUN; nothing serious…well…maybe I do have a bit of a problem…ok, ok, I love firemen.

Any time I see one, I must stop and get a photo.

It could be mid walk…

…mid run…

Or, mid conference…

As we waited with thousands of others for a taxi cab, I saw a big, bright red fire truck in the distance.

“FIRE TRUCK!!!!!!!”

I shoved my phone into Jody’s hand, bolted down the street, sprinted through the cross walk and weaved through 3 rows of cars in downtown LA on a hot sunny night. I zipped through until I reached the fire truck and ASKED if I could have my photo taken with them.

“Sure!” he said in a friendly manner.

I hopped on the front bumper and waited for Jody to take the photo. Waiting even for a few seconds seems like eternity when you are holding up traffic! I was not going to lose this OPPORTUNITY. I stayed on that front bumper until I knew she had the photo.

Woman, sprinting down the sidewalk, through traffic, sitting on a fire truck bumper in the middle of rush hour in front of thousands of people just coming out of a business conference…yup, I’d say she was nuts! I did not care. I didn’t think about it! All I saw was OPPORTUNITY and I took it! I may be crazy, but crazy got results!

How did I get this OPPORTUNITY?

  1. I recognized it.
  2. I ran for it (literally).
  3. I asked.
  4. I received.

That is how you get an opportunity. You CREATE IT for yourSELF.

Later that night we went to a pre-organized function. It was busy downtown as there was a basketball game with the Lakers: Lots of people and lots of energy. I LOVED it.

At the end of the night, after hours in high heel shoes (They are fabulous but my feet were starting to hurt), we decided to get a cab. We tried for quite a while but could not get one. We walked to a hotel but still could not get a cab.

I spotted a limo driving by. I asked my friends jokingly:

“Will a limo work?”

“Sure,” they responded, also jokingly.

I waved at the limo driver and ASKED if he had anyone in the back. He didn’t so then I ASKED how much he charged. He wanted to know where we were going. I told him our hotel and he said:

“Hop in. It’s free.”

WOW! WHAT A GIFT! We got to ride downtown LA in a limo FOR FREE!

How?

I ASKED!!! It really was as simple as that.

Because we were rejected by all those cabs saying NO to us, we found a NEW OPPORTUNITY by ASKING and as a result we got to ride in a limo for FREE!

So, what are YOU going to ask for? What NO are you going to turn into a NEW OPPORTUNITY?

Thanks LA, I had a blast!

With a smile,

Tina

THE Jog Blog – 67

May 17, 2012 By Tina Moore 1 Comment

I love running the Lions Gate Bridge. It is one of my favorite runs to do.

My dear friend, Jody Kennett, from Leapfit introduced me to the LGB:

“You have to do the bridge!” she said.

She was right! I love the challenge of the incline (it doesn’t seem to end) and the incredible view. It also leads me to a gorgeous run on the other side that circles around Stanley Park along the seawall.

I am funny about the bridge. I don’t like to stop while I’m on it.

I’ll be perfectly frank. It’s my EGO.

Yup, my ego will not let me stop on the bridge and let all those drivers see me walk instead of run (like they care). It’s good training for me. I challenge myself to run that long, gradual climb which plays with your brain because you think it’s over when in fact, you still have far more to go.

I ALWAYS LISTEN TO MY BODY FIRST. I use my ego to motivate me not cause harm. If my body was in pain, I’d STOP but my ego can push me through when perhaps I ‘might’ stop when I didn’t really need to.

I am also obeying the signs. No turning around…

…and no stopping either! Hehe.

Here are some facts about the Lions Gate Suspension Bridge from Wikipedia:

• Its official name is “First Narrows Bridge”

• It crosses over the Burrard Inlet and bridges Stanley Park and downtown Vancouver to North and West Vancouver.

• Construction on the bridge started in March 1937 and it opened November 14, 1938

• It is just under 2 kilometers across (one way).

• Daily volume across the bridge is in between 60,000 – 70,000 cars

When I did this particular run on the weekend, it was a bit eerie. If you look at these photos, not one car was seen in either direction as I returning.

Then, a lone empty bus crossed over. I felt like I was in the apocalypse!

If you are traveling to this beautiful city and you like to walk, jog or cycle, please make the Lions Gate Bridge a part of your plans. It’s simply glorious and you won’t be disappointed! Remember to share the road, cyclists on the LEFT, walkers/runners on your RIGHT.

I hope you have a lovely weekend. I am so blessed to be off to Los Angeles with a dear friend for INSPIRATION, MOTIVATION and INFORMATION and yes, a whole lot of FUN!

See you on Tuesday!

With a smile,

Tina

The Gift of Friendship

May 15, 2012 By Tina Moore Leave a Comment

Friendships are sometimes the difference between living your life, and LOVING your life.

I have been blessed with some lasting, loving and supportive friendships. The kind where I don’t see them every day but there is an unspoken understanding that if either of us needed something, we can call. We get into adventures, make our own fun and laugh until our stomachs hurt. We don’t allow the other person to stay down too long, we fight for each other when we can’t fight for ourselves and listen when we need to be heard.

“Your friend is your needs answered.” ~ Kahlil Gibran

Two weeks ago I was having a rough couple of days. My friends told me what I needed to hear:

Tina, you are too proud.

Tina, you are a trail blazer, taking adversity and creating opportunity.

Tina, you are a shining star; no one can put that out.

Tina, you are an editor, writer, singer, teacher, athlete, motivator, visionary, nurturer, amazing friend-sister-daughter-aunt and you have an emotional IQ that is off the charts. You are beautiful, funny, playful, energetic and talented.

WOW. Friends step in and tell you what you need to hear when you can’t find the words (or energy) to say it to yourSELF.

Sometimes, they point out things you don’t recognize. I am too proud to ask for help because I want to make it on my own and prove I can do it but often times we need to EMBRACE each other to fulfill our bigger goals.

We have to allow others to GIVE and we have to RECEIVE with GRACE and GRATITUDE.

My former teacher, mentor and dear friend reminded me I can ask for help and it’s ok. I won’t be judged or criticized but rather supported and validated.

Asking for help is a positive exchange of energy. It’s only our negative attachment to the act of asking that can taint the request.

She also showed me that I have taken adversity and changed it into OPPORTUNITY and I shall do so, again.

The other quotes are from this dear friend. She is one of those people who would open her home, give me the shirt off her back and share all her knowledge and resources to help me out. Last week she ran with me and allowed me to cry, vent and process what was bothering me. Once I emptied my tank of the negative, she filled me up with positive messages, and helped me see another side to things. She pointed out my strengths and pushed me to keep going towards what I believe in. She defines “The Gift Of Friendship”.

Friends ask how you are doing, then LISTEN for the answer.

Friends tell you when you have toilet paper stuck to your shoe or you’re in a relationship that stinks.

Supportive friendships aren’t based on convenience. The best of friends show up when it’s inconvenient.

Friends are LOVE in ACTION.

CELEBRATE YOUR FRIENDSHIPS. TELL YOUR FRIENDS HOW MUCH THEY MEAN TO YOU AND HOW MUCH THEY ENHANCE THE QUALITY OF YOUR LIFE.

Such sweet blessings…

With a smile,

Tina

 

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