If At First You Don’t Succeed…TRY AGAIN!

January 10, 2012 By Tina Moore Leave a Comment

When we were children everything we did was a first:

  • Rolling onto our back
  • Rolling onto our stomach
  • Crawling
  • Clapping our hands

Our life consisted of constant REPETITION and continued DETERMINATION. Our very nature was to keep trying until we conquered the task. We didn’t quit when we landed on our butts, time and time again learning how to walk. We didn’t say:

“It’s too hard, I can’t do it! I quit!”

We got up on our wobbly, chubby legs and we tried again…and again…and again…until we weren’t only walking, we were running, jumping, skipping, skating, climbing, or swimming!

We didn’t understand the word fail.

Defeatism isn’t part of our natural makeup.

We wouldn’t survive as a society if it was so we always keep trying. We had DETERMINATION, DRIVE and a FIERCE COMMITMENT to SUCCEED.

AS KIDS WE WERE FEARLESS.

We were constantly faced with CHALLENGES and OBSTACLES but we always made the CHOICE to KEEP TRYING.

What if we applied that same innate quality of never giving up on yourSELF to our adult lives?

What if we didn’t see the challenges before us as being too hard but rather as part of the process? We didn’t see ourselves as failures but rather accepted that bumps, bruises and scrapes are part of the journey to learning how to succeed in life?

Can you imagine if we’d made the choice as children and decided that walking was too hard? We’ll just crawl instead…talking was too difficult so we’ll only use two or three word sentences? We won’t learn how to tie our shoes, use a fork or pour ourselves a cup of water.

We won’t LEARN. GROW. EXPAND. CHALLENGE ourselves. We won’t be CURIOUS or face our FEAR.

As children we learn that life opens up when we take chances, explore opportunities and if at first you don’t succeed, try, try and try again.

As adults we forget the value of challenging ourselves and only see it as something that takes too much time, is too hard or it’s not a priority. We get stuck, complacent and make daily decisions that mediocracy is acceptable.

As kids we would never accept that we couldn’t walk! We wanted our independence so we could explore more of the world! So we kept trying to walk until we could run!

We pushed our boundaries to discover we had no boundaries!

Walking led to running which led to dancing which led to climbing which led to wonderful, creative and exciting explorations!

Life opened up because we kept trying!

My wish for you today is that you apply for the job you’ve been thinking about or you take the dance class you’ve dreamed of but have been too shy to attend. Ask that guy out if you find him interesting or keep applying to university to get accepted as a lawyer or nurse if that’s what you really want. Don’t let one application stop you. Live the life you dream. Apply again. And again.

Keep your vision in focus and don’t let negative thoughts, doubts or insecurities skew the life you could have.

Keep trying. Don’t give up.

YOU NEVER GAVE UP ON YOURSELF AS A KID, WHY WOULD YOU START NOW? USE YOUR CHILDHOOD COURAGE TO PUSH YOU IN THE DIRECTION OF YOUR DREAMS.

DREAM BIG. DREAM OUTRAGEOUSLY.

DO IT TODAY. DO IT NOW!

With a smile,

Tina

 

THE Jog Blog – 52

January 5, 2012 By Tina Moore Leave a Comment

THIS IS WHY I RUN!

It’s January 5th and the motivation for maintaining a healthy lifestyle is in full swing.

I think this month we’ll all be inspired and driven to stay true to our word but my concern is by next month the stress of the Christmas bills, busy schedules and the yucky weather may pull us into the direction of old habits and procrastination.

I know from experience it doesn’t take much to get side tracked but I’ve also discovered that all my other goals such as financial goals, eating healthier, managing my time better or maintaining a healthy lifestyle are much easier to achieve when I have a FITNESS GOAL.

Although, exercising 3x per week is a great choice it can be difficult to maintain.

Because it isn’t a fitness goal, meaning it doesn’t have a finish line or target date, it becomes an endless, repetitive and possibly boring goal with no final outcome to CELEBRATE. It’s hard to STAY MOTIVATED when there is no CELEBRATION at the end!

What eventually seems to happen is other things take priority and exercise continues to get bumped off the schedule until it’s no longer a part of your routine.

I encourage you to commit to a FITNESS GOAL that is part of an organized event. Why?

  • You will have a tangible date to work towards.
  • You will be part of the incredible ENERGY surrounding the event.
  • You will feel the ACCOMPLISHMENT of crossing the finish line. It’s amazing!
  • You will feel sheer JOY knowing you followed through on a commitment.
  • It’s an exceptional way to build SELF ESTEEM, deal with stress, anxiety and manage DEPRESSION.
  • You can work on your goal with others and receive support. It’s FUN!
  • All other goals (such as losing weight, eating healthier, getting more sleep, living with less stress etc) naturally become easier because of your fitness goal.

You may hate jogging. I used to hate running too but I’m not asking you to jog. I’m asking you to find an organized event that you can set as your target date. You can walk, jog, hike, cycle or row in that event.

If there are no events then create your own! That’s what I did for my 40th birthday and it was truly one of the best days of my life!

AN IMPORTANT PART OF THE JOURNEY IS THE CELEBRATION AT THE END.

YOU are worth the COMMITMENT. YOU are worth the CELEBRATION.

Check out your local running, cycling or fitness store and see what events they have listed.

Sign up! Be empowered! Have FUN!

If you want a quick and easy read that will jump start your motivation and give you steps to complete your goals, check out my book THE DECISION. It’s simple, fast and a steal at $9.95!

If you are looking for more incredible deals, LadySport has a great sale on right now for all your fitness needs. Check it out HERE.

I hope you have a lovely weekend full of healthy delicious foods, warm hugs, fresh air and lots and lots of laughter!

See you on Tuesday!
With a smile,

Tina

PS. I have made a commitment to run four half marathons this year, what event are you signed up for? Let me know by commenting below, maybe we can do it together!

Did He Love Me? Do I Love MySELF?

January 3, 2012 By Tina Moore Leave a Comment

Have you ever looked back at a previous relationship and wondered:

“Did he ever love me?”

It’s a natural question to ask especially if someone you loved and cared about betrayed you. How could they lie so easily? How could they treat you so badly?

“Did he ever love me?”

I used to ask that question, drive myself crazy with that question but then realized that I didn’t need the answer.

His lies helped me find my TRUTH.

I don’t need to know whether he loved me or not. That is inconsequential. What I needed to learn was:

DO I LOVE MYSELF?

And the answer then was clearly, “No”.

Love has to start from within. It must start with YOU first.

Our relationships are reflections of how we view ourselves. If you are with someone who is treating you with no respect, angry words and a total lack of concern for your wellbeing, it’s because there is a part of you that feels you deserve that kind of treatment.

If you truly loved your inner spirit, body, personality, talents and energy you wouldn’t accept such negative behaviour. Trust me, I’ve been there, I understand it well.

When I decided to change my life and not live my 40’s how I’d lived my 30’s my life improved. I passionately did the work on mySELF: processing past pain, healing deep wounds, and making my happiness a priority because I was determined to change the pattern.

By making the commitment to mySELF, I was able to find the strength to say NO to negative behaviour.

  • I made THE DECISION to surround mySELF with positive people and eliminated the angry, negative and toxic influences in my life.
  • I created personal goals and achieved those goals.
  • I found STRENGTH in my past and COURAGE in my present.
  • I found JOY in my heart because I was finally living an AUTHENTIC life.

My previous relationship was so twisted, distorted and convoluted I wondered if a healthy relationship was possible. Once I created a healthy relationship with mySELF, I was able to choose a new relationship with a different set of tools in my emotional toolbox.

All my relationships, including the one I have with mySELF are now based on:

  • RESPECT
  • HONESTY
  • INTEGRITY
  • KINDNESS
  • AUTHENTICITY
  • A LOVING, OPEN HEART

It is amazing what you can accomplish in a year’s time. I enCOURAGE you to FALL IN LOVE with yourSELF. Make 2012 the year you make THE DECISION to commit to your inner relationship with your beautiful, talented and loving SELF.

Treat yourSELF how you want others to treat you and treat others how you want to be treated.

2012 is your year.

FALL DEEPLY, MADLY AND PASSIONATELY IN LOVE WITH YOUR INNER SELF.

Rise up. Take action. Choose YOU!

With a smile,

Tina

PS. My book THE DECISION is full of insights, steps and personal details of how I went from dysfunction to authenticity in a year’s time. Check it out!

LOVE is a GIFT

December 27, 2011 By Tina Moore Leave a Comment

LOVE IS A GIFT.

During a time of year that is meant to express LOVE and JOY, money can cause stress and anxiety. This year, I was determined not to experience the dark days of last year.

To change my experience, I decided to change my attitude.

I may not have a lot of money but I do have words and thoughtfulness. Depending on the circumstance, words can carry enormous weight when there is LOVE behind them, and THOUGHTFULNESS shows that you care. These are wonderful gifts.

Last year I started to have a depressing Christmas. I was overwhelmed with anxiety because I was not able to give to others as they were giving to me.

I thought I needed money…gifts from money…in order to give back.

I was prepared to cancel Christmas due to this overwhelming feeling of inadequacy and couldn’t see how my actions would affect my family. They wanted ME at Christmas, not my monetary gifts or lack thereof.

This year, I spent a little money but I also made gifts. I spent some time thinking of unique but personal gifts and then I also used my words as gifts. I sent my nephews journals which inside I’d hand written special memories and words of LOVE, KINDNESS and SUPPORT.

These are teenage boys…you wouldn’t think they would like such a gift, but they loved it and sent me messages of genuine appreciation. I used my words to help others who are struggling at this time. It isn’t “merry” Christmas for everyone. It’s difficult. Sometimes Christmas is depressing and brings sad memories to surface.

I used my words to write texts to people…quick little messages of LOVE.

But sometimes words aren’t appropriate. Sometimes there aren’t words for situations that are deeply sad…where the loss is too great, too fresh and words don’t suffice.

In this situation, when there are no words…I offered to LISTEN…that too is a gift…to LISTEN and to LOVE.

LOVE in all its simplicity is a GIFT.

LOVE in all its enormity is a GIFT.

LOVE can help HEAL wounded hearts, lift spirits and CONNECT souls.

LOVE is a GIFT you give yourSELF and it is a GIFT you give to others.

I didn’t need to give expensive presents. I didn’t need to give numerous presents. I just needed to express my love.

It really is that simple.

Wishing you a beautiful, loving and simple Tuesday my friends.

Take out all the reasons why you shouldn’t LOVE and replace them with all the reasons why you should LOVE.

With a smile,

Tina

PS. Come back on Thursday as I’ll have a great read to get you started for the NEW YEAR! In the meantime, THE DECISION is an excellent way to kickstart the new year by making goals, finding your happiness and living an authentic life!

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